Being right

Tonight at the meeting  of our fellowship , a man said:  "I had to learn, did I want to be right, or did I want to be happy?".  I felt I knew exactly what he was saying.  Why is being heard important to me? 

A personality who drives me crazyt is a person who always has to be right, have the correct answer or tell you about their intellectual competence.  And without a doubt, this personality will always have the last word.  When I come into contact with this type of personality, it is as if the worst side of my character rears its ugly head.  I find myself duplicating her behavior. 

How to avoid this behavior in myself?  Watch my my husband,.  He is categorically one of the brightest, well read people I know.  It is interesting to watch him sit back and avoid correcting people in their stupidity.  He doesn't feel the need to one up them, or to point out their errors.  He does have his nemesis so he simply chooses to avoid contact with these persons all together. 

There is a lot I can learn from him.  Detachment.  I must  brush up on this skill.  Thankfully, I am out of practice. It is nice to be in a relationship where detachment is not needed as a major defense  for survival in a marriage...

Thanks be to God...Amen